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Let your inner child fly and reach the clouds.

Naina

When I was a child, I was unaware of the socio-economic issues that concerned our society. I was unbothered by the facts which were presented to me in a way that society perceived to be normal. But, I was always bothered by this one fact about my family and relatives. Do you know what was that? The fact that females in our families had to act a certain way and males of the family had to act in a certain way rather than how they all wanted to act for real. People say gender inequality is about low pay grades and opportunities for women as compared to men. They say men own the houses more than women but, nobody talks about the reason behind it. They don’t talk about the women who want to be as ambitious as men are and that men want to be as sensitive as women usually are. Nobody talks about the image a woman has to project in a family after getting married which is quite burdensome not just for her but for the generations to come. Does nobody talk about the image a man has to portray after getting married where he cannot express his emotions freely, the pain? Oh, it doesn’t exist for men! For women? Oh yes! But she is the pillar of the family so she has to take care of everything beyond expectations. Aren’t we too concerned with the way a man or a woman or a transgender is expected to behave and think? Can’t we just live and let them live peacefully?

Let’s get into some facts stated here: https://www.unwomen.org/en/news/in-focus/commission-on-the-status-of-women-2012/facts-and-figures

Although the gender gap is fading with time in most countries. We need to identify the thought process that leads to such a gap, to begin with. Unless you know the core problem, how do you plan to solve it? For instance, if the type of infection is not known, how can one’s health improve if we only take care of the symptoms like fever or nausea? That won’t treat the infection right? On the contrary, if the cause and type of infection are known, the treatment for the infection will automatically slow down all the symptoms without much effort.

Nobody talks about the females being the reason for their miseries and men being the reason for theirs. How? Have you met some women who were raised in such a way that when asked about their dreams, all they could think of was to get married and stay comfortable forever (assumption- the guy will bear the financial burden). Or if you have encountered some men who were only interested in doing 9 to 5 boring jobs (for them) and building their physique so that they can chase some beautiful women and make an impression of being stable in life (assumption- girls get married to financially stable guys with good looks). There are countries and societies where kids are being raised in such a way that they think it is a default setting made by the universe!! And when they grow up, it’s normal for them to look at gender inequality as a minor issue. There are always two sides to a story, focusing on just one side can harm the balance that society was previously carrying. If we don’t treat the people the way we want to be treated, how long can we live a lie like this? There always comes a day when people usually get tired of all the pressure incurred by society, all sorts of peer pressures they have been holding, and all the norms that didn’t make sense. And when that day comes, people are too tired to live their life to the fullest. The sooner we realize this truth, the better we can contribute to uplifting our society in a short period.

Who do they do it for? Well, they do it for nobody but themselves. But, the impression society has of them, is a myth. Society perceives these men and women as the ones who do it all for their family or maybe their spouse. But, the fact is that they are too comfortable to be challenging the way society functions anymore. It’s not that they don’t care, not even that they don’t want an upgrade in life; it’s just that they have given up too easily so much so that they can no longer differentiate between the true personality they hold and the myth they are trying to justify every other day.

Okay, let’s consider a situation for you to ponder over. Have you ever asked your parents about their dreams? Probably you would assume they had none. But, once you ask, they might give a confused and irritated look at times unless they are already living their dreams. How often do we pause and think about the way our parents act and behave? How often do we observe the traumas they carry from a young age? Do we sympathize with them or do we love them? Do we care or do we just ignore? I probably have learned a lot of things just by observing my own family and society around us. Everywhere I go, it’s always the same for almost every 3rd person I meet. Either we are too naive or too superficial to ignore these loopholes in society.

There are so many things I wish to write about, but I probably won’t. All the views that I have expressed here are individually my own and it has nothing to do with any statistics. I would like to request people who are reading this blog to kindly check the facts stated on the UN women’s website. Any agreements or disagreements on the topic are welcome in the comments below.