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DO YOU KNOW WHO YOU REALLY ARE?

Aren’t we all wearing a mask? Some are reluctant to admit and some are still figuring out why they are wearing a mask when they don’t even want to be like that. Do you often get confused about your personality traits? As per a survey, average human being has approx. three sides to their personality that they claim to be in front of the people depending upon who they hang out with.

We may indulge with various people and have an encounter with different types of personalities in our day to day lives. That may impact us unconsciously and trick us into presenting only the sides of us that people are more likely to accept rather than the ones that are even harder for us to accept about ourselves. There can be certain traits that aren’t really that bad about us, but, we prefer not to express due to the fear of being judged and being treated as an outcast. When this becomes a habit, it eventually becomes a version of our personality. Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you will always have something to hide from somebody, not because you are wrong (or you could be wrong as well), but, because you don’t know what to do with it. We all have our secrets, and we’ll have some things or some people we want to protect from outside influence and that’s just alright. What’s weird is that we all are same in this reference one way or the other. The more we explore, the more we realize the duality of our personalities. There are times when you want that pat on the back for doing well, and sometimes you want to be forgiven for your mistakes. There are times when you want to change yourself and some times it’s just a paradigm shift that you are waiting for. We all have bad days and our good days. Similar we are, different we become.

Knowing oneself takes a whole lot of courage than one can even imagine. Knowing oneself takes years of intellectual growth, emotional stability and the guts to accept oneself when things seem unfavorable around them. We all have those traits that are subconsciously presented to our peers in different forms considering who we hangout with. While introverts may take longer to explore those traits within them, extroverts and ambiverts are no different.

“Any time a trait is easy to observe or hard to admit, you need other people to hold up a mirror for you. Romantic partners and close friends might be more informed, because they’ve observed you more—but they can also have blurrier vision, because they chose you and often share that pesky desire to see you positively. You need people who are motivated to see you accurately.” – Read this article by ADAM GRANT (an organizational psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania’s Wharton School of Business)

Although this article was in relation to job and coworkers. And I do believe that sometimes we do need people with unbiased views to tell us about some of our traits that are unrecognizable to us. Sometimes, we just need to have a mirror for our personality as well. Unlike, physical mirror, we need a mix of co-dependency rather than a complete dependency for how we really go about in this world.

Have you ever noticed anyone close to you? I bet you did, may be several times!! But, do we notice right? Do you often feel like reading their minds for no specific reasons? Well, don’t get bothered by this thought anymore. That’s ’cause you are not alone in this queue. As I mentioned before, people may get distracted sometimes and get tempted with all those materialistic comfort around them. Ultimate peace comes from within. Being in harmony with yourself is to be in peace with who you are. We may sometimes underestimate or overestimate our traits but, that doesn’t stop us from exploring more of what lies within our beings.

Some tips for intellectual growth and harmony :

• Travel often and travel far, you will love it!
• Heal through music, learn and embrace your style of music. Sing or dance to your favorites.
• Listen more and say less. If you hear more, you may get to learn something new.
• Explore all sorts of adventurous activities that come your way. Fight your fears.
• Meditation is the key – Star gazing, gazing the moon, sunset view, stroll alongside a beach etc. Everything is a form of meditation until it can keep your thoughts at bay for a while.
• Embrace the presence of nature around you – the birds, the butterflies, flowers and the trees, everything, water them, the animals – feed them.
• Read books, the bigger the stack, the better. If you wish, just be an avid reader. There’s no harm in educating oneself on their topics of interest.

All views are exclusively mine, you can try these and figure out what works for you.